Do not judge what you do not know
We are all guilty of judgement. It’s something I try to work on when I find myself judging what I see, not what I know to be truth.
You see: A man laying crumbled with filth against a brick wall. Matted hair with scars on his face. Vacant eyes. Yellow nails gripping a tattered book. A drunken bum.
Truth: A man lost everything he owned and ever loved. Heartache and Pain took his will to live or care. His mind is locked on the past that wont change and can see nothing else. His one possession he would kill to protect is the baby book saved from the house fire.
You see: A pretty young woman sitting alone on a bench. Trendy clothes. Well polished nails with a beautiful ring on her finger. Smiles with perfect teeth at those that walk by. Thoughtfully offers a spot on the bench to a couple. I wish I could be her, shes perfect.
Truth: An insecure girl that was never allowed to make a mistake. Always had the best money could buy. Even the perfect man that was a mean drunk and didn’t believe in fidelity. She didn’t feel so lonely or afraid sitting in the park. Envious of the love she saw between others.
You see: A rotten little brat misbehaving towards other children. Pushing smaller ones to the ground. Taking toys that don’t belong to him. Interrupting the play of good kids. I hope he doesn’t come near me or my child.
Truth: A scared little boy that has no father at home because he is in jail for abusing his mother. Older brothers punch him and take his toys. He wants a friend but wont ask to play. He wants a word of kindness and to feel self worth. He has to be tough because nice will get you hurt.
I am not saying you must see the good in everyone or look past the bad in all. That wont happen. There are some real bad eggs in this world and finding the good in them is a waste of time. I’m just suggesting the next time you see someone or something that forms an idea of who they are by their appearance…..run a different scenario through your mind that will produce more compassion and kindness towards them.