Anger is part of the emotional package born to all humans. Anger, when left unchecked, will be destructive. Anger is an ugly fact none of us like to admit we have inside of us. It can be nurtured and fed to become an unbridled rage so that it consumes all other emotions. It is defensive and always offensive.
There is no shame in having this natural emotion, only what freedoms and liberties it is allowed to take with your actions and responses. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health.
I have not taken educational courses pertaining to anger or other psychological well being, however, life has taught me many lessons in which a professor could never find in a book to teach me. Anger has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. It has showed its self in many different forms, faces and stages. It has left scars behind, most you can not see, to remind me what it is capable of doing when left in charge of ones soul. Its destination will always be a place of destruction filled with a hateful cancer.
Over the years and many many unsuccessful attempts to let go of my anger towards others and myself, I found something that works; Forgiveness. It is the only remedy that has worked. (I have tried more then a fair share, mostly self destructive) Now do I still feel anger? Yes of course I do, BUT, I can control and quell it quickly when I feel it taking control of my thoughts and actions. The most important thing I could convey to you, is to forgive yourself of your regrets. Let go of the negative vibe attached with anger and you will be amazed by what has been hidden and overshadowed inside your hearts mind.
You are not responsible for the angry choices of others, ONLY YOUR OWN. You can not control the behavior of others, ONLY YOUR OWN. Be mindful of your own actions.
I like to read Chinese proverbs sometimes to refresh my positive intake. Here are a few that have helped me to recalculate my thought patterns:
- Do not create in anger what you lack in reason
- Anger is always more harmful then the insult that caused it
- Never answer a letter while you are angry
- If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.
- He who strikes the first blow admits he’s lost the argument
- A clear conscience is the greatest armor
If you are a young person then you still have a lot to learn about life, so if I can help you along by just a little, please take my advice from above.
If you are “older” like myself, well then I am sure you will agree with most everything I have said but in the chance you are still searching for an answer to anger, try forgiveness.
Forgiveness and Forgetting are two separate things, I know this…just in case you were thinking something along those lines. To forgive and let go does not mean forget what was done, only to move past and leave it behind. Learn from the experience to better yourself like you would anything else in life.
I’ve heard “Don’t sweat the small stuff kid” and “it doesn’t matter in the larger scheme of things” from older people all my life. It was good advice that I should have paid heed to much sooner but I knew everything and thought it was just old person mumbo jumbo babble talk. Jokes on me, had I listened it would have saved me a lot of unnecessary heart ache and worry.
With age comes wisdom so as long as you are breathing you are learning. When you know all there is to learn about life, well I guess you are dead then, so I hope you lived it to the fullest and not the foolest…….